i understand and kind of agree ;) i was just so bothered with this member´s profile saying NO to all those stamps he sent to me ...ignoring what i wrote in my profile all the same:~ so the stamps were all right (rating 3) as such -even if not a single one for my collections- i was just not happy with the sender´s profile saying no to everything he sent himself ;)
i think that if you send anything, you should also wellcome anything. if you write in your profile eg. "no cto" -you should not send cto either if the partner´s profile says the same thing as yours... i think that to be fair is main thing, as well as sending 100 different and undamaged stamps. not say "no definitives! no cto!" and then send lotsss of those yourself ...that is not "trying your best" ;)
and yes, in most cases i would not mind receiving back the stamps i sent myself as i mostly send nice stamps ;) sometimes even great stamps ^^ so if someone is not ok with the stamps i send, you are wellcome to send them back to me as soon as you pick my address ;)